Wednesday, August 27, 2014

Ricky Gonzales' Co-Worker Rings a Bell Which Cannot be Un-Rung

Contributed by Christian Sparlock Freedom
I was raised as a Jehovah's Witness since I was five years old, baptized at age fifteen years, disfellowshipped at age nineteen years, then reinstated, disfellowshipped again at age twenty-three years, then reinstated again.  I was married in April, 2005, our son was born in 2007, our daughter was born in 2009.  I became a ministerial servant in the year my daughter was born.  My wife quit her well-paying career to "pioneer" (full time door-to-door ministry) and to be a stay at home mother a few months before I was appointed as ministerial servant.  I was well on my way to becoming appointed an elder, as I have been serving in capacity as one for some time now, though not officially appointed yet.  We were a perfect family, examples to the congregation, used on circuit and district convention programs.  We were well-known in the Jehovah's Witness area, of which we were part.  

A simple comment from a co-worker rang a bell with me that could not be un-rung and started a snowball rolling that could not be stopped.  Our conversation went like this:

Co-Worker:  "Say, Rick, I hear that you Jehovah's Witnesses are struggling for money these days."

Me:  "What do you mean?"

Co-Worker:  "You haven't heard? Y'all are paying millions to molested children."

Me:  "OK. (?)  What are you speaking of?"

Co-Worker:  "I heard of a court case, Candace Conti vs the Watchtower Society.  They are supposed to pay her $28 million USD.

Me:  (Embarrassed) "I never heard of that.  But I will tell you that Jehovah's Witnesses are not perfect.  These things happen, even among us."

Co-Worker:  "That sounds just like all other religions.  You should take a look at this!"

Me: (Nervous) "Well, again, we are not perfect, and I will take a look at this."

As I began to research the Watchtower Society, what I discovered disturbed me VERY much.  I began investigating to see if these things were true.  Everything I discovered was indeed true.

My wife saw that I was not myself.  I was staying up late researching, not eating, not sleeping. But at the time, I did not want to share this with my wife, because I did not want her to get as upset as I was, for her health reasons. 

One night, my wife confronted me at 3:00 A.M., accusing me of viewing pornography.  So, I had to share what I was investigating. I shared one thing. She refuted it like a Jehovah's Witness champion.  It did not even affect her like it had me.  Eventually, as she kept asking, I would share another discovery with her.  Her anger towards my investigation kept mounting with each fact I would share with her when she asked.  The situation came to a boiling point and she became so disgusted with me that she called me an apostate, which is the worst thing a Jehovah's Witness can be accused of, and she threatened to tell the elders, if I didn't do it myself. 

We agreed on a date to tell them, which was six weeks away, after out international convention.  I held true to my promise, met with the elders and told them of my doubts and they disfellowshipped me on July 24, 2014. 

My wife hates me, is disgusted with me, has called me a filthy apostate, threatened to leave, called me a dog that has returned to its vomit and a clean pig that has returned to rolling around in the mud.  Life at home has been horrible since my awakening, to say the least.  My two children are confused about why their father no longer wants to be a Jehovah's Witness.
Needless to say, things are very sensitive.  My wife has been accusing me of cheating on her with "women" friends that she thinks I'm meeting on Facebook and YouTube. That's the Jehovah's Witness mindset.  You cannot have a platonic friendship with the opposite sex without something happening. 

I need all the prayers I can get.