Wednesday, January 21, 2015

The Disassociation Letter of Frieda Serendipitously

The only names changed in this letter, are those of the innocent.
To the congregation of Jehovah's Witnesses,

I, Frieda Serendipitously, formerly known as Miss Led, and Vic Timized, no longer wish to be recognized as one of Jehovah's Witnesses.
 I was a faithful servant for more than 25 years in the "Hate-inspired, Abusers of Victims and Stepford-like" congregations of Jehovah's Witnesses.

I know I will not be missed.  You teach that because I refuse to live under your rules, I am "mentally-diseased."  This is disgusting!  I know it is not the first time you have heard this from people that choose to leave the religion, but I had to say it for myself. I endured years of emotional and mental abuse from alleged "Christians" in the congregations.  I asked for help and you ignored me.  I was bullied by children at the Kingdom Hall and told I was too sensitive when I cried.
I was raped, abused and abandoned by my first husband, and I was told it was my fault for marrying him.  My daughter was severely beaten by my second husband.  When I talked to an elder about it, he offered no help but, as a good sister, I did not take it to the authorities and "bring reproach on Jehovah's name," one of your teachings, inspired by your ignorance, hatred and greed.  This husband also abandoned me.
I spent years celibate, because I wanted to be faithful.  I tried my best to be the perfect Christian woman, at the sacrifice of my education, youth, sexuality.
It was not an apostate that made me examine my life choice!  My daughter, at the age of 12, began refusing to attend meetings.  I was told to beat her and force her to attend, and being the submissive fool I was, I did just that, until one day I woke up and asked myself, 'Why?' Why had I waited till I was 35 years old?

So I say farewell to my mother in the "Confused" congregation. My grandmother and aunt in the "Hell Bent" congregation, my best friend of 30 years, "Not-awake-yet" in the "Guppies" congregation, and the woman I love as a daughter, "Hope-she Awakens," in the "Matrix" congregation.
I am a beautiful, loving, intelligent woman.  I am a wonderful mother, friend and girlfriend. I am learning what real love is.  I will no longer allow the abuse of my childhood to dictate how I feel about myself!

Frieda Serendipitously, 
a wise woman