Thursday, March 10, 2016

The Story of Anna Nemus

I could write pages about my time with Jehovah's
I was born in 1978 in Sacramento, CA.  My father, already an Elder in his thirties, was very conflicted in that he was a nice person at the meetings, while taking his frustrations out on all of us at home.

Not only that, but my mother was a complete narcissist, with a mental delay of some type that she would never admit to, but everyone else could see in her. And believe me, it is very difficult for a child to have a parent that is so "different," while still expected to take so much physical and emotional abuse from them and defend them.  It is not easy when everyone asks you what is wrong with your mother.  I could never tell anyone how violent our home life was, because I was told it would give Jehovah and his people a bad name.

As I reached adulthood, I was desperate to get away from this insane, hateful family life, but I was very deeply entrenched in Watchtower Society teachings and doctrines and was sincere in my love for Jehovah.  While growing up, I really had no doubts about it whatsoever.  Once I had my children, I wanted them to have a normal life.  I thought that could include being Jehovah's Witnesses, but it became more and more clear that this "normal life," a childhood better than mine, could not exist in that environment. 
That is really all I want to say.  I have too many negative memories to go through and would begin dwelling on it again, and I just want to leave it behind.  I can tell you, though, that the people labeled as "apostates" by Jehovah's Witnesses are not bad, as they are portrayed by the Watchtower Society.  Some of us just don't believe in a religion any longer.  Learning the truth about the Watchtower Society cured us of that.  We haven't hurt anyone, and in fact, we were usually very hurt by Jehovah's Witnesses.

The Disassociation Letter of an Anna Nemus

Contributed by Christian Sparlock Freedom
Below please find my letter of disassociation:

Characteristics of a Cult:

1) The group is focused on a living leader (governing body members) to whom members display excessively zealous, unquestioning commitment.
Guy Pierce (bottom right) is deceased.
2) The group is preoccupied with bringing in new members and/or making money.

3) Questioning, doubt, and dissent are discouraged.
4) Mind-numbing techniques (for example: way too much studying and meetings, denunciation sessions, or debilitating work routines such as field ministry,) are used to suppress members' doubts.

5) The group's leadership dictates how members should think, act, and feel (for example: members must get permission from leaders to date, change jobs, or get married;) leaders may determine types of clothes to wear, where to live, how to discipline children, and so forth.

6) The group is elitist, claiming a special, exalted status for itself, it's leader(s), and members (for example: the leader is considered the Messiah or an avatar; the group and/or the leader has a special mission to save humanity).

7) The group has a polarized we-they mentality that causes conflict with the wider society.

8) The group's leader is not accountable to any authorities (as are, for example, military commanders and ministers, priests, monks, and rabbis of mainstream denominations).

9) The group teaches or implies that its "superior" ends justify means that members would have considered unethical before joining the group (for example: letting children die without a blood transfusion if it could save them, or not reporting child molesters or wife beaters to avoid shaming the congregation).
10) The group's leadership induces guilt feelings in members in order to control them.

11) Members' subservience to the group causes them to give up previous personal goals and interests while devoting inordinate amounts of time to the groups.

12) Members are encouraged or required to live and/or socialize only with other group members.

Anna Nemus